Until today he has not responded, though I see him always online on Facebook. Looking backwards or maybe on your current experiences what would you say would be the best for a girl who cares about a guy like you to do? He used to respond to all your texts, but now he replies only a couple times a week. You must be one of the lucky minority who can tread lightly and be able to disengage relatively easily. Or the excuse is we just dont click. Cuz I had recently dated a guy who wasnt into texting or checking in and way too independent. It took me a long time to get to the point where it didnt make me mad, but I got over it because i wasnt trying to be his woman anyway, so no loss for me. I dont think that anyone should play games with peoples feelings. Its very sad and frustrating. maybe i cared about him too much or maybe i was focused on what he liked and didnt show him the real me.. my self-esteem and confidance hit rock bottom and i started doubting myself and hating myself. I was ok with it and we cuddled and kiss till I got home, he texted me right after to seri got home safe and everything seemed great, until he started a new job the day after the talk I had with him. I have been dating a guy for 6 months, we met online, hes a truck driver. Youd probably want to get it out of your hands ASAP, right?! I am so confused about how things could be so happy one day and so distant the next. He has kids and his kids and family loved me like a step-mother/sister-in-law/daughter-in-law. He's Dating For Sport. Lol. We talked throughout the whole summer but did not start hanging out till September. You begin by sending him a casual text, followed by a direct message on Facebook just to be sure. Heck, lie to me- tell me its you and not meanything is better than nothing. This is probably the second time this happened to me, and it makes me feel like guys think Im some sort of psycho, which I know for a fact that Im not! But in this case, you must realize that youll never be anything more than an option. Never once does a Woman ask what do I bring to the table? I mean who does that? Enjoy the dating scene. What should I do? I want to know how hes doing! Then I assumed its over, but still, I needed a closure. Obviously at this point you feel maximum like sending back an emoji of the middle finger. Move on and meet someone who is. He did mention to me that it bothers him at his age (of 43) he hasnt reached the milstones all his friends has reached or what i have reached. let me date hundreds of Men. Guys like this are easy to get over. I havent done anything to him I dont understand how he could just stop talking to me. Dont let someone like us to be baffled by all those question. Help. But theres the idea that he thinks I will wait. He was awesome. If he wouldve just had the balls to tell me it wasnt working out I wouldve been fine. no plans, no more i love you. We date for 3 months. Dont take it personally. Anyway, as you often write here, we cant settle for less that we want. I wanna give a guys perspective here but only my own or a certain type of male perspective from the time I was guilty of doing this. I could tell from his pupils he was using again and I was a bit standoffish that night which he realized and I told him I was leaving where before I basically would not willingly leave until I absolutely had to. He seemed so head over heels for me and I dont know what happened. I was so good to him and we were just fine. I like this young lady and I will be distraught if she meets someone else! Thanks Ive been going through an on-again, off-again situation with one for 5 years. 3.karma. He has never gone this long ever before without contacting me. However, you need to be aware of your behavior to decide whether this is the case or not. Hi there, You need more time than your story indicates to decide whether hes cooling off lol patience grasshopper. If you are still asking why he pursued me then disappeared - this is a likely reason. Compare it to two others who disappeared with no explanation- took me months and im still not completely over one of them. Not. Told him id contact him in the morning and I txte him a few times and no reply . I know I am awesome and he needs a lot of growing up to do. As seen above, it has nothing to do with you when a guy does that, so girls! When your ex finds random excuses to contact you and message you, it's definite that your ex misses you. That didnt happen and so I was there. Dont reach out to him.under any circumstances! Dont contact him. I know I just need to let him go (which I have, Im not contacting him). He said this would be the evening we would either discuss whether it was a make or break . Im going through the same thing. Well thanks for sharing your story. Just be yourself. I met this guy online on a website that advocates marriage. He will text you back to say thank you and send you a compliment in return. He might be struggling with alcohol or drugs, he needs money, is dealing with debt, has families issues to fix up and a whole host of problems that are difficult to deal with. And now he says hes been just so tired with everything and is really busy on the run up to xmas he just doesnt have a lot of time. On December he invited me to a party and then he asked me out, as much as i was scared to start a relationship knowing he would go away soon i still said yes. He has literally dropped off the face of the earth. He is not a stable person and MAY never be. So Id love to hang out with you again and I just want you to be honest with me are you going to be the guy who says some things and then vanishes?. We started seeing each other. Ive just had this happen to me again (first time was my last relationship, over 10 years agoIve only sporadically dated since then). If a guy vanished on you, this says everything about him, not you. He kept insisting on meeting me which we eventually did and the next day he texted to say I really rang his bell and he really liked me, but his actions in the following days didnt match his words. During the next week he texted me suggesting some plans for the weekend and that he felt like to see me. 1: A worthy man who is really into you and excited to carry on seeing you and feels you have invested in him, will not in any way jeopordise this by ghosting. We talk again on the phone for another hour the next night and I am on cloud nine. I was upset and emotional. But whats up with the charades with the stickers could he really not have that much to say? So at 530 pm last night (Friday) he messaged me back. We seemed to have connected and laughed a lot. I invited him to leave clothes over for convenience because he was staying over often. He was here on holiday for 3 months and would fly back to Melbourne which is oceans apart. Just let me know, but he sworn that there wasnt another woman. Of course he didnt. He worked out of town a lot up north on oil rigs. Then he texts back and tells me his grandmother had passed and he would be with his family for the next few days. Our vision is to help you bring your biggest dream into reality. My emails have been hacked by people I had met online, not to get finance info, but to spy on me and read my chat history, so beware! He stopped answering my calls, I checked on his Facebook and he was actually having fun. Hed tell me how he cant believe that this is happening, he would tell me its unreal, he would tell me how beautiful i am, he even told me how much I remind him of his mother. I didnt have to fight or argue with him, there was no drama. (then we both disappear again lol!) After a week first red flaghe said he felt like things were going too fast and he felt weird. Like me, he was anxious if he didnt hear from me for a day, our lives didnt feel complete without that contact, and our meeting went so well after a year of talking, I was really in love with him, and he was too (I think!he was the one who fell first) It is now 2 months since he asked for a break and not a word, its like he has deleted me from his life. #sso oh no. . I have absolutely NO idea what happened or why! ha! Dates ARE personal, and when a man disappears, its essentially saying, thanks but no thanks. Ick. I dont know what to do. Ask him a question pretending as if nothing happened; Start a conversation casually without addressing his behavior yet; He texts and calls only when he needs favors; Never asks about what or how youre doing. he even asked me to keep contacting me. But I brushed it off maybe hes busy or something. Each connection has its development speed, and he might have chosen to foster the one that progressed faster. Bit of backgroundtwo almost 30 y.os, him 4 months out of a 7 year relationship/engagement. I ended up really hitting it off with this guy. The first date went great. While I was away for a little bit for summer he became even more distant and I asked him what was up. Acting and talking arrogantly. Boy bye! So this has just happened to me and has got to be one of the worst feelings in the world. He brought me flowers, made reservations at s very fancy restaurant and took me Did I do something wrong he pulled the disappearing act on me so after months I just assumed he just disappeared and moved on with my life. And then just one day we were exchanging messages and at one point (and the whole conversation was quite flirty) he just stopped. Instead of making sure not to lose you, he willingly walked away from you and treated you as an option. I responded with whos this? He said who he was and asked how Ive been. I do not take being intimate lightly and I was devastated and very hurt. So has he lost all physical attraction and would never want to explore us again? Now I really turned . I like to feel Im a rational human being, but even Ive creeped on profiles of people I thought my object of affection was interested inthat makes me a psycho? Since he works at the store I get my groceries from I used a different picture.. Im not going to contact him Im just going to wait and see. He will come back soon. We had prearranged plans for my birthday three days later and I decided I wanted to go anyway, at least we could talk and part ways nicely as I knew friends wasnt an option. I honestly believe that after being with a guy for several months you should at least be able to ask them if theyre on the same page with regards to the future. However, he has vanished again cause its been 4 days since so heard from him!!! Love and attention from a land far, far away is a typical scam artist angle. The first time he and hooked up he dropped off the face of the earth. Him straight up I wouldnt be sleeping with him or anything and he knew that. After a stressed week.. If the situation wasnt official as in you had had the talk and declared each other in a relationship with girlfriend & boyfriend status, there is no break up talk. We talked and met each other for 3 weeks every day. I told him I like him, and he said hes really interested too.then suddenly, nothing. Cause I said wait you have a darn phone and know my number!! And also I now understand why lots of beautiful girls end up in a happy relationship and marriage with men that dont look as attractive as the girls do. To clarify I wasnt aware that he had an STD. Like with the guy that I described below Weve known each other for years, we were having sex for a year, he even proposed and moreover we wont avoid some contact, because we work in the same field. He isnt a social person so I know hes not out at night and I know hes home most weekends. If you deeply cared about someone and wanted to be with him and cared about their feelings being hurt, you would not ignore them. I literally stumbled across this post looking something else up lol. Its been 3 months, 24/7. I was so nervous I was a rambling mess but we hung out for hours at the end of the night his work phone rang ( he was on call ) and he ran out. Many of us would LOVE toknow why. This isnt about my self worth and I find it quite offensive when people say that. So, apparently, you get this said to you a lot. I got friendly replies but obviously something had changed.. and then eventually he just didn't respond and I haven't heard from him since. That helps nothing. So yes, get angry, get upset and then stop dating. And that is something that happens to a lot of women out there. And yeah, thats disappointing but its not the be all, end all. Only he knows the exact reason, and only he can give you the exact one. Within a week we saw eachother 3 times th firstweekend I stayed over and it really felt like I knew him forever. He made me feel so alive again. Simply having a man around who is loyal and considerate might be enough for you- but those two qualities are shared by thousands and thousands of interchangeable men, and putting them on a pedestal for it wont make them feel special- just generic. I would put the odds of there being a problem with him at around 10%. We eventually seen each other in person and I know for a fact that we liked each other because he kept kissing me ! Just to reassure you not all guys are like this. He will not do things or behave in a way that would cause the woman to wonder. Thus we cut off and run rather than face the reality of hurting you in a face to face situation. I didnt realize this happened often! Obvs I dont wanna reach out to him and be desperate but he already prolly thinks Im crazy for deleting my Instagram. Blame it all on women because you dont like the state of things. You got it. He did tell me once that it hurt him a little that I didnt text him for two days after one of our dinner dates. So if its not an ex its probably some personal issues that were around before you came into the picture (the job might be an indication). I texted 3-4 times in week and telling what was going on with me. He claimed he was so sorry for dleaving me hanging that it wasnt fair etc. I have a degree in psychology and have spent the last 10 years interviewing countless men and reading and studying as much as I can to better understand human psychology and how men operate. I cant deny I had a lot of fun. It took me awhile to reply to his text, when i did it was high-five happy and sexually overt, not a great reflection of me, I dont drink but when i re-read the text I sounded drunk! It was the best decision that I made in this situation. Laughable if I wasnt so emotionally involved. Unfortunately, these qualities are handicaps that blind you to reality. I have done that as well- but if i MAKE plans for a second date i will never cancel last minute- just a rule i have for myself. Its better like this. Him (10 minutes of silence while he is online): lol What? But he suddenly stopped texting during a day and a half, then on the same friday he invited me at his home and watch a movie though It was late I accepted and he picked me up. Best of luck :). So in a situation where you have a talk and you give him an ultimtum, he decides he wants to work things out he doesnt want to break up, he would just like me to make it interesting again like before? It really is a coward move. I tried calling him and texting no respond,another day go by still no answerand on a Saturday, I called his sister, his sister told that she caught my boyfriend with another girl,so that tore me apart, I was work crying trying to composed myself without people seeing my tears..I never once in my life been cheated on and it hurt,his sister told me to calm down and just forget about him but how can you when all you do is think about him,he used me to get whatever he want far as clothes and accessories and I was kind enough to get it for him but my thing is how can you get over someone who doesnt love you not care like I truly do? I have a deep understanding of masculine and feminine psychology, the biological influences that shape our relationships today, and the ways people communicate their romantic feelings and intentions. Then Wed I got a Good Morning Bitmoji but then we didnt text during the day. Wanna share whats going on? Then he wished me happy birthday. Now that hes shown you how little he really appreciated you, its time for you to show him your back. After 17 months of being separated from my stbx. but I was feeling so emotionally exhausted, and tired I decided to call him out on it..humorously of course since confrontation is not my strongest point. It was a very healthy relationship because we were friends who liked each other and dated. Ive tried initiating contact a few times, But he disappears mid conversation (which i find rude) And then i wont hear a peep again for weeks on end, So i stopped doing it. So I replied saying ok but asked for him to give me an explanation when he was ready and I hoped he was ok (by the way I was totally devastated.) Dont settle for anything less. (I was close for 15 years, thought I was with my sole mate. Thank you. Im not doing that just because I dont want to die alone, when I like someone I really want to be worthy to be with her, but I know that at some point Ill run out of my reserve, and it might be really painful to discover she doesnt like me anymore when that happens. He treats you poorly time and time again. Why why why????? Its just not fair. We had been talking about moving in together in the near future, he had told me that he wanted to get married this summer and we were starting to talk about that! So you can say he went on a date that he didnt plan off. I sent him texts expressing myself and letting him know how i felt he never responded. Period. I thought he was too, or he would have never made it past a first or second date. After a week I felt that may be I should initiate a contact and wont mention about our differences. i wait with days and text him, he just said he was busy he is sorry and hope i am well. Looks like I am headed in the same direction as your cousin..Damn, This guy finally contacted me first on Monday, then on Friday after the final text I sent him, I did not contact him at all last week, I was checking to see if he would initiate contact without me texting himI guess he needed some sort of ego stroke and was worried that he would lose me as an option. He emails, I reply more in depth this time, we keep emailing, every few days. :p I was really happy and joyous (am 19 years old, and can still act childish if I get over happy!) Im so confused he wont talk to me or respond to my email- but he says he can go to couples therapy in a week?? However the last couple of days he has gone unusually quiet? Feeling ick. This is going to sound cruel and I apologize in advance..youre needy and gullible and have poor personal boundaries. 1. Forget about the whole talk of male masculinity. Did he ever end up talking to you again? After two month of no contact, I reached out to him again and we got back together and have been back together for nine months. Ive had a bad night with him and just needed to vent a bit and also wanted to give enough information so I can try to justify putting so much energy and time into this situation lol! I never ended up hearing from him again. So maybe its better if you keep your unhelpful, condescending remarks to yourself because obviously YOU have a lot to work on if you need to go on an internet forum and diminish others to build yourself up. I went to his house and he had the rest of my stuff thatv I hadnt taken in a box. Now in her defense 90% of the ladies i meet bore me to tears, but im a creative artist/author/geek so the regular people just dont cut the mustard (same w my guy friends). He would have never made it past a first or second date wasnt into or. Its time for you what to text him when he disappears show him your back, not you isnt a social person so know... 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